Words of Wisdom
Some cautions everyone should take:
If at a bar, keep an eye on your drink from the time it leaves the bartender until you're done with it.
Don't let go of your purse. unattended, they can dissapear fast.
Be alert in parking lots and try to avoid vehicles that you cannot see in, like vans. Once you're out of your car, don't linger, get to your destination. Don't be a target--get your head up and keep your eyes open and go.
Stay in groups of friends when outside if possible.
Be alert on dark streets for gangs and cars driving by. Do you see an escape route, what will you say if approached, what will you do if an assault appears imminent?
Don't give out your phone number unless you feel completely comfortable with someone. Doing so might invite unsolicited calls. In addition, it is often easy to obtain your real identity from a phone number. Keep in mind that cell phone numbers make it more difficult to get your real identity and/or address.
Don't freak out if stopped by the police. Remember they are more interested in stopping muggers, thieves, and drunk drivers. Crossdressing is not going to be high on their list when it comes to enforcing the laws. If you are stopped by the police, it probably will be because you looked suspicious or if driving, perhaps a traffic violation. Be honest. See Transgender Concerns- Police.
See Bigots for tips on how to handle.
Local laws vary. In St. Louis, crossdressing is not illegal. In St. Louis County, if a law from the 1800's against masquerading still exists, it is not enforced. The significance of laws against crossdressing is quickly approaching that of the laws about wearing hats on Sundays or not walking your iguana on the sidewalk--both were on the books a few years ago and may still be there. The police in St. Louis city and county will not be interested in what you are wearing, they have most likely seen it all.
If it is icy out, wear sensible footwear. You can always change inside the door.
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