What are you afraid of? There are some very real fears regarding crossdressing and some fears are just in your mind. Each individual is unique; circumstances and fears will vary depending upon marital status, employment, religious beliefs, physical size, age, etc. Recognizing what fears you have will help in coping with your transgendered anxieties.

This is the scariest part, but it gets better. See www.tgtoday.com Overcoming Fears - Step One. Remember when you crossdress you are in disguise and chances of being recognized are greatly reduced.

One’s job security is the number one fear of being spotted. An elected, public official may be more concerned about being recognized than a bookkeeper that works for a small business and has a limited number of friends. To varying degrees, both may have a real fear of job loss. Consideration should be given as to how much exposure is acceptable and where one might go to limit the chances of exposure.

Not far behind is marital status and family. A husband who has not told his wife of his activities may have a real fear of being caught. Consideration should be given to being more open with your spouse. Some spouses know and disapprove, which can cause a lot of anxiety. If you're reading this article, you are most likely not going to give up your transgendered side. Purging doesn't work!

A father with teenagers has to consider where his children and/or their friends may be hanging out. I personally don't believe telling children is a good idea until they are grown, unless you are considering transitioning.

An individual with friends who are unaware of his activities may be concerned with their reactions and how their attitude might change toward him and his wife.

There is also a real fear of being the target of acts of violence. This is more remote; take care not to place yourself in jeopardy. There are many safe places to go in larger cities where it is safe, providing caution is taken.

There is also fear of the Law. This will depend on where you live, but society is changing and law enforcers as a whole really don't care what you wear as long as you are wearing something. In the St. Louis area, I would consider this a Fear of the Mind as long as I'm not driving intoxicated. See Transgender Concerns - Police.

The above fears are real and may affect one's life socially, financially, and emotionally. Being discovered may happen whether or not you get out, but the odds increase if you do venture out.

The following are also real fears, but based more on emotion. They will eventually disappear after you start getting out.

The desire to get out, but not knowing what to expect is fearful. The fear of the unknown is common. If you haven't experienced getting out, you have no idea what the dangers are. This fear lessens every time you're out, and one day you'll look back and say, "What was I afraid of?"

The fear of being ridiculed or receiving negative comments from strangers in public places. This can be emotionally stressful for many individuals, but with proper selection of places to go, can be avoided or minimized.

If a level head is kept, these fears quickly disappear, but caution should always be maintained.


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